MOM, ALZHEIMER’S AND ME: A LOVE STORY

“I AM STILL HERE, I AM NOT GONE.”

“How is your mom?”

A question I am most often asked by some of mom’s close friends especially during Christmas. Then they would say — “We’ll visit her one of these days.” Sadly, none of them ever do. Of course they could have been simply busy over the holidays or maybe they did not know what to do or say but it would have been nice if they had kept their word. 

One of the challenges an Alzheimer’s patient goes through is keeping their relationships & friendships intact. As the disease progresses, the behavior changes becomes more challenging– the mood swings, repetitive questions, paranoia, conversations that no longer make sense to name a few– we’ve observed friends who are distancing themselves.

I wish they can hear the patient’s plea when they say “Do not focus on how I look but on how I feel.” What most people fail to realize is that people with Alzheimer’s may be the least lovable but they have gifts to give. They are still part of this world if only we allow them. They will most likely forget what you say, but will surely remember how you made them feel. 

We are very thankful to those who chose to stay in Mommy’s life. Yes, she is a different person now. She is not the same person anymore but she is still here… She is not gone.

HAPPY, HAPPY 84th BIRTHDAY, MOMMY..

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EVERYDAY IS MOTHER’S DAY

EVERYDAY IS MOTHER’S DAY

Mom, did I ever thank you for all that you have done for me?

Did I ever thank you for teaching me the value of family, courage and strength?

So many times I think of myself and find myself wondering if I ever gave you your due.

I remember how special you made all the holidays and other special occasions.

I remember the days when you would prepare and cook our favorite recipes.

I remember your wit, words of wisdom and encouragement when failures haunt me.

I remember the laughter, fights, imperfections and other bonding moments.

Did I ever thank you, Mom?

If I have forgotten, I’m thanking you now.

You taught me a lot of things….

Thank you for choosing to give me life.

I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated.

I hope you, instinctively, knew well all along now that the big “A” has taken its toll on you.

Mom, for raising us who we are today, we can never repay you.

They say “God could not be everywhere, therefore, He made MOTHERS.”

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.  Every day is Mother’s Day!

 

Dearest Mommy,

 

You are the greatest gift of all

The best parts of me are from you

Memories of home will keep me close to you.

Time flies, everyone says.

Whatever tomorrow holds, other things may come and go

But know that we will always have you in our hearts.