“I AM STILL HERE, I AM NOT GONE.”
“How is your mom?”
A question I am most often asked by some of mom’s close friends especially during Christmas. Then they would say — “We’ll visit her one of these days.” Sadly, none of them ever do. Of course they could have been simply busy over the holidays or maybe they did not know what to do or say but it would have been nice if they had kept their word.
One of the challenges an Alzheimer’s patient goes through is keeping their relationships & friendships intact. As the disease progresses, the behavior changes becomes more challenging– the mood swings, repetitive questions, paranoia, conversations that no longer make sense to name a few– we’ve observed friends who are distancing themselves.
I wish they can hear the patient’s plea when they say “Do not focus on how I look but on how I feel.” What most people fail to realize is that people with Alzheimer’s may be the least lovable but they have gifts to give. They are still part of this world if only we allow them. They will most likely forget what you say, but will surely remember how you made them feel.
We are very thankful to those who chose to stay in Mommy’s life. Yes, she is a different person now. She is not the same person anymore but she is still here… She is not gone.
HAPPY, HAPPY 84th BIRTHDAY, MOMMY..